Waking the Heart and Soul

You see the problem is that something happens in our lives, often in childhood, and it triggers a belief. This happens all too easily and often without much effort at all. The belief can be out of alignment with the actual event, but still be a result of what we experienced. It doesn't always need to make perfect sense. The belief that we are left with gets strengthened by our thoughts, interpretations of situations and we end up getting stuck. This goes on to impact our relationships, career, all the choices we make, all that we choose or reject. It becomes the lens that we look through, holding us at a certain place within our lives. The way to liberate ourselves from these limiting beliefs and patterns is to visit them, to look them in the eye and challenge them, with compassion. When we identify a particular story that plays out subconsciously or consciously, we then have the awareness to make changes. Sometimes these stories, and beliefs have become so ingrained that they are ...

Fear is definitely one of the most challenging emotions. It can stop you in your tracks and bring you to a halt. Unfortunately it is often what holds us back from living to our potential and really linking to our true self. I am determined to keep transforming my experience of fear.  Fear can be generated from a matrix of different aspects. The mind, body, spirit and emotions can together each play a role. Perhaps we arrive on the planet with a predisposition to fear, carried down through the generations from our ancestors. Energy healing comes in many varieties and can support you to break these ties. A predisposition to fear may then be triggered by a series of events throughout our lives, encouraging the emotion to become predominant in our psyche.  Fear has a very big impact on our system and can trigger off fight or flight responses in the body, which over time can become automatic. Leaving you feeling a little trapped. Fear can be transformed and there is not a one ...

Once we start to recognise that we all want the same things, that we all experience emotions such as fear, sadness, love, joy and happiness it's all a little clearer. We all want to be happy and feel at ease. So much time is spent avoiding suffering and sadness but unfortunately these are inevitable at times in our lives. What changes our response to difficult emotions is our awareness. Avoidance of engaging with feelings often makes them tougher to deal with and they appear stronger. We also start to fear the experience of the emotion itself. Generally emotions don't dissipate until we allow ourselves to feel them. If we don't allow feelings and emotions they can get a little trapped in the body, maybe causing aches and pains. Emotions create an energy, a vibration, and so does compassion. Compassion supports the transformation of emotion. Changing it from something difficult to a wisdom. The fear of allowing ourselves to fully embrace emotions is more often than not great...

‘Don’t turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That’s where the light enters you’, Rumi knew that pretending that certain aspects of ourselves don’t exist wasn’t the way to transformation.  The critic, the voice within that holds us back, tells us that we are not good enough, that we shouldn’t speak up; that is what keeps us stuck. These unacknowledged parts of ourselves are often close to fear. Fear of what might happen if we acknowledge them , fear of the truth of who we are. However, as Gene Gendlin describes, we come to know through awareness that, that which appears negative does actually contain trapped suppressed positive life energy. The energy is twisted and blocked and gentle mindfulness or awareness is often all that is needed to allow the release and transformation.   We place parts of ourselves in exile...   as they get labelled over the years as bad or wrong and the critic keeps us from moving forward by repeatedly holding the reins. The critical pa...

So, you think you might be in Hufflepuff? Don’t worry, I’ll talk you through it.  I remember breathing a sigh of relief 8 years ago when the counsellor I was seeing told me that the way I experienced the world was quite normal, and actually being highly sensitive was a personality trait. Dr Elaine Aron describes this trait as a variation in the nervous system and brain, that allows subtleties and details to be processed at a very deep level. This can often feel like quite a burden in the modern fast paced world. Highly sensitive people will often be the first to shed a tear and emotional experiences can completely overwhelm and hang around for days.The highly sensitive person has a more active insula in the brain which leads to raised self-awareness. This can cause huge delays in decision making (yep) and an extreme sense of wanting to do the right thing. Being highly sensitive means that you notice the most subtle details, cues and changes to the environment, and easily this leads...